On Adoption, Race, and #mykidslivesmatter

I wrote in previous posts that I am often asked: “Why did you adopt black children?”  The question is phrased in myriad ways.  And my responses, depending on the questioner and context vary as well.  I’m often tempted to be flip: White babies freak me out with all their wrinkles; I listened to a lot…

On Fate and Faith…

I have always believed in fate; at least, until recently.  The problem I now see is that I have been simplifying fate in the same way I simplified reason (or reasoning).  We often like to assign fate to positive outcomes (that can been seen after the fact).  It is a bit like Monday morning quarterbacking. …

Letting go of Reason (or Reasoning)…

I am the father of three adopted children, ages 15, 11, and 7 months.  Two boys and a baby girl.  I often get asked why I adopted.  I have also been asked (frequently as of late): do you only adopt black children?  My wife and I have also lost many children; we discovered early in…